Add TwentyORM query read timeout exception (#13603)

In this PR:
- adding a try / catch around all ORM internal methods save, insert,
upsert, findOne, ...
- leveraging this error to prevent messageChannels to get FAILED
- optimizing messaging BATCH_SIZE and THROTTLE threshold according to
local tests
- 

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packages/twenty-server/src/engine/twenty-orm/error-handling/compute-twenty-orm-exception.ts

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+import { t } from '@lingui/core/macro';
+import { QueryFailedError } from 'typeorm';
+
+import {
+  TwentyORMException,
+  TwentyORMExceptionCode,
+} from 'src/engine/twenty-orm/exceptions/twenty-orm.exception';
+
+export const computeTwentyORMException = (error: Error) => {
+  if (error instanceof QueryFailedError) {
+    if (error.message.includes('Query read timeout')) {
+      return new TwentyORMException(
+        'Query read timeout',
+        TwentyORMExceptionCode.QUERY_READ_TIMEOUT,
+        {
+          userFriendlyMessage: t`We are experiencing a temporary issue with our database. Please try again later.`,
+        },
+      );
+    }
+  }
+
+  return error;
+};